How To Deal With Colleagues Who Turn A Cold Shoulder?

I wonder how many of you have faced this kind of problem, with colleagues ignoring you for no good reason. In the past few weeks, I have experienced this kind of treatment from a colleague in another department.  Every morning I will walk past her seat and I will greet her good morning.  But there are many times when I arrived earlier, she would just walk past my place without a greeting. For instance, this morning, I greeted her good morning when she walked past me. But she did not response. Perhaps she did not hear it or pretend not to hear it.

I do not know what causes this. She used to reciprocate, but most of the time, she responded to my greeting without even looking at me.  She replied good morning for the sake of saying, while staring at her computer monitor.  Even her good morning was cold and indifferent. Sometimes, I tried to get to my place from the other door so that I don't have to walk past her desk.  Save my breath.

I do not like such feeling since we are all working adults, not children in school.  There are two ways to handle this, either I ignore her by entering through another door, or continue to say good morning to her and strike up small conversation to get her attention on me.  If I choose to be indifferent, things will never turn out positive.  So I have to be positive myself.

I am not a talkative person, I seldom engage in small talks in the office.  Perhaps because of this, colleagues who do not know me well find tend to find me aloft.  Most of the time, other colleagues will walk past my desk without saying good morning to me, but they do so to the colleague sitting next to me.  She is an older lady in her 50s, who is chatty and well-liked by all.  I don't feel good. But I tell myself I have to stay positive.  Perhaps I should greet whoever walking near before they greet. It is not easy, but I have to take the initiative.

Have you experience such situation before?  How do you overcome it?

First Purchase In Zalora

Zalora is not a new online shopping portal to me.  I have always seen advertisements of Zalora over the internet and billboards on the streets and MRT.  But I have an impression that the things are in the expensive designer's price range.

On Monday, I happened to click on Zalora's website out of boredom.  I went to the discount section and saw many eyes catching clothes on sale.  The price after discount was a major draw for me to make my first purchase.  Most of the clothes' design are in fashion, stylish and have a neat cutting. You can buy two or more nice dresses without burning a hole in your pocket. 

I used to buy clothes from Taobao, mainly because of the low price.  Now after I discovered Zalora, I will no longer buy from Taobao.  There are 4 reasons.  First, Zalora's clothes have better designs and workmanship.  Second, Zalora offers free exchange and refund.  Third, Zalora's delivery is very efficient. I ordered a dress on Monday, and I received it on Wednesday!  Fourth, Zalora offers cash on delivery option. So there is no need to setup credit card account or worry about internet transaction. 

The color and cutting of the dress that I bought closely resemble the one posted on Zalora. Price after discount is S$14.90 (with no shipping cost).  A good buy, isn't it?

  

DERMALAB GENESIS By Fabulous Aesthetics

As a working mum, I seldom have time these days to go for a facial or spa.  The hectic schedule for the past two years after my gal was born, has dulled my complexion.  Perhaps due to hormones change, my face has become oilier, numerous small clogs have also formed on my forehead. 

I have always been on a look out for good facial treatment with good service.  I came across many trial facial promotions in Groupon but I have been reluctant to try.  Always remember a saying, ‘don’t expect good service for things that come cheap’.  These facials are priced cheap so as to entice customer to go and then spend the next half an hour listening and rejecting the hard selling.

I was recommended by my sister to try the Genesis facial treatment at Fabulous Aesthetics (Bugis).  This treatment uses an intense light pulse to penetrate deeper layer skin while blasting the epidermis, which can help to rejuvenate your skin.

The treatment lasted about 1 hour 15 min.  It began by cleansing and extraction.  The therapist said it will be a light extraction as the light pulse was intensive.  Perhaps I have not gone for a professional facial for quite some time, the extraction was painful.  I got a shock when I was handed the mirror.  The extraction wasn’t light at all!  It was very detailed and my face got angry red marks all over.  The therapist used a considerable amount of strength during the extraction.  In a way, detailed extraction is good, as it helps to remove those stubborn blackheads.  However, the fearful moment came when the Genesis intense light pulse strike.  As it was done immediately after extraction on a swollen and sensitive face, the pain from the light pulse was moderately high.  It felt like your face is being repeatedly snapped by a forceful rubber band.  Yes, forceful.  The loud snapping sound coupled with a burnt smell (from the mask applied), you could not help but feel that your face has been burned.  The pain level was rated 7/ 10.  It was more intense when it hit near the eyes and upper lip area.  The light treatment lasted for 5 – 8 min.  The therapist halted the treatment temporarily as I was too tensed up.  After the light pulse treatment, I was handed a mirror.  Fortunately, there was no burn or red mark.  The therapist asked if I can feel or see any difference, for which I could not really tell as all I could see were those red extraction marks.    

A smoothing mask was applied after the light pulse treatment. I was left to cool down for almost half an hour. Miraculously, after washing off the mask, my face was less red and the swell has subsided 70%.  But the marks on my forehead were rather obvious.

Throughout the facial, the therapist did not hard sell any products or make sarcastic remarks about my existing condition.  She did not talk much except telling me the step she was going to do next.  Although it was good for a detailed extraction, it might be overdone unconsciously by her, which probably caused the light pulse treatment to be more painful. 

For this type of light pulse or laser treatment, one can only see visible result after 5 or more treatments.  Perhaps Genesis is more suitable for those with little or no sensitive skin and older woman (40+) who wishes to have a more intensive treatment.  Personally, I would not take up the package which consist of standard 8 treatments.  The Genesis trial is priced at $128. Actual package price per session is much higher.

The overall experience was still a good one. My face is less clogged now.  I did sign up a normal facial package for maintaining dewy complexion.